Custody violations are practically impossible to enforce, because of the complicated facts and typically ambiguous orders. Your facts suggest nothing unusual.
Your ex can throw everything but the kitchen sink into a motion to modify, but if the child doesn't want to cooperate, the court is not going to force her to follow the orders, because there is no enforcement mechanism that can be applied. It's not like the child can be thrown into juvenile hall if she doesn't cooperate.
BotXXXXX XXXXXne, while I completely understand the father's annoyance, he doesn't have a prayer at doing anything more than having the court make future orders written in stone -- i.e., no more what the child wants, no more what either parent wants, exact, specific dates for each important event during the year and no wiggle room.
Which, frankly, is what it should have been from day one -- because that is the only thing that really works to keep the peace.
Note: custody studies are expensive, especially when combined with the associated hearings and legal fees. Most parents fall dead mute as soon as their attorney tells them that they may be into $20,000+ easy to litigate a full custody dispute, and that they may just as easily lose as win. So, unless your ex has deep pockets, this is all just "fireworks," but nothing else.
Happy Fourth of July.
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