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The reason they told you to get a private attorney is that this is a civil (family law is civil law, not criminal) matter. As such, the sheriff and police department do not have any jurisdiction to enforce this order unless and until there is a court order and citation for criminal sanctions imposed against the individual that is breaking the order.
You would first need to file a motion to show cause and motion for sanctions to be imposed.
And you would need a lawyer to do that. Only if it were clear that there were some sort of criminal action (such as an unambiguous kidnapping, etc..) as defined under Texas penal law, would the sheriff and/or police get involved. /
That might be what it seems like to you (and the judge might also see it that way) but until you go to court and get the court to modify that order, it still stands. The correct procedure at this point is to go to court, get the court to tell her to explain herself why she has ignored the decree (which she likely can't do) and issue appropriate sanctions (including attorneys fees, costs, etc... as well as potentially modifying the agreement).
Now you can let your ex know that if she continues to refuse to abide by the agreement, that you will seek a complete modification of the custody agreement, seeking primary custody, etc...
That may get her to fall into line.
But you would still need to go to court to get it modified.
...even if she is not in compliance. Her non-compliance is what can get you in the door of the courthouse in the first place and ask for such a modification.
If you do not comply, the judge can throw the book at you as well. The KEY to winning in court is to show that you have complied with the court order, even after she has not.
If you also don't comply, the judge can likewise issue sanctions against you, even if your noncompliance was in response to hers.
Now she has absolutely no authority to determine when the agreement is null and void.
Only the court could determine that.
Likewise, you have no authority to determine when the agreement is null and void. Only the court could determine that.
And unlike custody / visitation matters, if you do not pay child support, you can expect to be arrested.
Criminal non-support IS a crime in every state of the union.
Now you have a great case to take before a judge. But you have to take it before a judge to get it changed.
Legally speaking they're not. Criminal non-support means the non-custodial parent not making child support payments as he/she is ordered to. The child support / custody orders are seen as different issues in this regard.
But modification can be based upon a material change in circumstances, and this certainly could apply.
With all due respect, there's the way that things ought to be and the way things are. You're telling me the way things ought to be (and I agree with you) but out of the interests of my time and yours, I'm telling you the way things are. Changes in custody / visitation / child support can be made with a material change in circumstances. One of these is one of the parents not complying with the original orders. Following the decree is vital to your case, especially when she is not. It shows that there is one parent that is trying to abide by the court decree, and one that is openly flaunting it. I am telling you that if you want to win this case, you will continue to abide by the court decree, while filing a Motion to Show Cause / Contempt as well as a Motion to Compel. The court can issue sanctions against her for attorneys fees, costs, time missed, etc...
...as well as modify the original order more in your favor, if the court decides that it makes sense to do so and is an appropriate punishment for her actions.
Again, I agree that her non-compliance should automatically relieve your obligation, but that is not the case in Texas (or any state for that matter) and therefore if you stop paying child support, you'll get arrested.
Whether or not that is fair, that is the law.
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