I'm sorry to hear of your dilemma.
I'm not quite sure what you mean. It is normal that one spouse will receive a portion of the retirement fund of the other on divorce. It is also normal that if the marriage had any assets such as furniture, stocks and bonds, automobiles and the like, that the court would award part of those assets to each party in the divorce.
North Carolina is not a Community Property state and so I am confused by what you mean as regards XXXXX XXXXX that she is "RECEIVING COMMUNITY PROPERTY".
Once your wife and you are divorced, she is entitled to by a house if she chooses to do so---that is allowed under the law.
I wish you the best in 2011.
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