I did take your entire situation into consideration. That is why I provided you an answer that while you may not be happy with, is most likely how the judge will see it. Besides, the information I provided to you would be an ideal win for you and your case--as you stated that your spouse has a shark of an attorney, the attorney may well legitimately claim that he owes you no alimony since nothing is in writing, or request a lowering of support, or may request formal visitation
and custody of your child. I do not see you prevail on seeking large alimony if there is now a 12 year history of you receiving $3,000 a month from him for your support, even with your illness.
Additionally, a "fault" divorce DOES NOT modify the split in assets. And, if you are going at it without an attorney (something that is highly inadvisable), the other attorney can force you to agree to a much lower support payment than what you wish to settle on. The judge will usually not help you as his job is not to take sides but to ensure court rules are being followed.
That is why I provided you with an answer that you need to hear, and not one that you hoped to hear. I do not want you getting disappointed in the future.
Good luck and please accept my answer to you for the information that I provided to you. Thank you.
Dimitry Alexander Kaplun, Esq.