Ah, I see. so here is the situation. In the state of CA, as in every other state a parent cannot simply relinquish their parental rights and get out of supporting the child unless it is incident to an adoption by another man/stepparent. The CA law is very firm on this point as in all states. Think of the logic of that. If a parent could just give up rights and walk away and not pay support, then the state would get stuck supporting a bunch of kids and of course the state will not do that. I'm sorry you are having such a hard time with this woman but the most he can do is not exercise visitation
and avoid dealing with her in that regard, of course and not seeing the child as he is prepared to do anyway rather than subject the child to the madness of the turmoil the mother
creates, which I totally understand. But my dear unfortunately he cannot just walk away and not pay support. The mother has to agree and it has to be where the step dad is adopting the child. What the judge was saying is that you could file for sole custody and waive child support as the custodial parent
but not that the other parent could give up rights and not pay support. If your friend wants to give you any case, statute or legal precedence for that decision I am willing to review it for you but from what I have read you can only terminate parental rights incident to a step parent adoption or the state terminating your rights for abuse or endangerment of the child...something like that when the state takes the child out of the home. Sorry it's not what you want to hear but there is a public policy rationale for this in making sure children born into the world are supported, even when the mother's are irrational and impossible to deal with. :(
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