You are most welcome.
Thank you. Any way I slice it, I am really screwed. As you know, it will be at least weeks or even months after my attorney files for a temporary order with the court before any financial maintenance and child support will go into affect.
Unfortunately that is true. However if you do want to be vicious (and legal), you can always send letters requesting money and claiming that you are unable to support the children--give him 14 days via mail to start making payments and if he fails to do so in the letter warn that you will start to sell off his items to pay for the children's expenses. He fails to help, do exactly that but keep COPIOUS notes and expenses of all items, as later you can request that the money you made from the sales be something that he would not be liable to pay you once the support payments are set up.
The only thing I have going for me, it seems, is that he is retired military and his new job has "attachable" income when he starts working for them later this year.
Right now, though...that baseball bat is looking pretty good to me...18 years of my life I gave this man and sold my business to marry him because he had orders to go to Germany.
He just retired from the AF last year after 27 years...as a bird Col. no less and I don't even know this man anymore. He has already spent - no kidding - tens of thousands of dollars in credit cards in the past 18 months that *I* am on the hook for 50% of (community property state). I am DONE playing nice if he cuts off the income completely and leaves me holding the bag.
Second question - nearest I can figure, anything that he purchased with "our" money after we were married, I have every right to....uh, destroy since I own it as well. True?
Sigh. Yes, you can destroy it, but it will lower your full value of the estate, and ultimately may place you in a position where he can claim that your duty to maintain the property was breached and therefore you owe him for half of the value of the destroyed items. that will make the divorce even more abusive, and maybe it is something you should avoid.
Again, I do NOT give good victim and since I don't yet have a court order, I need to have some sort of retaliation. And...I never make threats. Only one-time warnings.
I understand, which is why I am trying to be as direct with you as I can be.
What say you?
See above--your ability to turn items into money may ultimately end up being the best type of a means out of this situation.
Edited by Dimitry Alexander Kaplun on 10/1/2010 at 4:47 AM EST