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Would the father have visitation rights in this proposal? Would the father agree to what you are proposing?
I understand, thank you. I do not think this would irritate the judge at all. However, if the father agrees, you guys can easily have this agreement drafted and the Judge would just sign off on it without having to rule on it. As long as the father would get visitation, the rest of what you are proposing would be perfectly legitimate in the eyes of the court. If the father does not agree, the judge could still grant your request if s/he believes it is in the best interest of the children. Please just let me know if you have any more questions. If not, please don't forget to click on the green accept button in the answer box so that I can receive credit for helping you. It is the only way I can receive compensation for my time and it will charge you nothing further to press accept. Thanks so much.
I can certainly understand that. The judge may indeed not feel that your proposal is in the best interest of the children because of the reasons you stated; however, there is just no way to get around the standard that they are going to judge by. The best thing would be for your husband to agree to this and then just have the judge sign off on the proposal. Generally, the parents are awarded joint custody and the parent that makes the most money would pay child support.
I did understand your original question and as I mentioned before, it would be best to get your husband to agree to everything and then hopefully, the judge will just sign off on it. If your husband will not agree, you will have to take the issue in front of the judge. While I do not think the judge will be irritated by your proposal, s/he is bound to rule in the best interest of the child. They don't rule on the feelings of the mother or the father. If you cannot keep your kids in the standard of living they are accustomed to, the judge could very well not grant you sole custody with no child support. Generally, parents are granted joint custody--this can be done by the court whether the parents get along or not. If the court feels joint custody and child support is in the best interest of the children, then that is what is going to be ordered. Again, try having your attorney get your husband to agree to what you are proposing before it goes before the judge. This is the BEST way to get what you are asking about.
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