As to what to do, you can file an emergency motion to suspend and/or modify contact. The motion would detail what you've described here:
You have a lot of options as to finding an attorney that can assist you in this matter.....
First, you should begin with your state bar association. The California State Bar has a website, it is located at www.calbar.ca.gov.
I do not know your county of residence but your county bar association likely has a similar site that will be more specific to your location.
Additionally, Martindale Hubbell is a national organization that rates attorneys across the country. Their website is located at http://www.martindale.com/.
Another nationwide website is located at http://www.avvo.com/. This site lists attorneys by geographic location and area of practice.
Additionally, there is quite likely a legal aid society in your area. A quick internet search and/or phone book search should locate the society closest to you.
Each of these resources will have a wealth of information as to attorneys in your area that handle such cases and that would provide services for free or at a reduced cost. I would suggest you check each site out and you will surely find a great number of attorneys that meet your needs. Pick a few to meet with in person so that you can thoroughly explain your situation and then retain the one that you feel can best represent your interests.
Also, please keep in mind that, if he makes significantly more than you do, you may be able to get the court to order him to pay your attorneys fees. Courts rarely award fees as a punitive measure, they are more typically awarded when one party makes more than the other to create an "equalizing" effect.
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One of my biggest concerns, since he did not tell me about the incident, and his family is covering for him, is patient confidentiality. Those are sealed tight, how can I prove that he was in the psych ward? Can the courts get those released? Or do I have to have an attorney subpoena the records?
You have a number of options....
If he's in court, and under oath, I would assume he would testify truthfully about the matter.
You could also subpoena anyone that would have knowledge of his stay there, including whoever it was that shared the information with you initially.
His mental state is clearly relevant to the issues. As such, you have the ability to subpoena his records from the medical provider.
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