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For better or for worse, a paying parent typically has no say in what child support money will be spent for. Child support is intended to provide for the paying parent's portion of the expenses for children, which can include everything from food to housing and utilities. In other words, not all expenses covered by child support are for diapers in formula and a paying parent can't expect the expenses to be restricted to things of that nature.
Whether a parent wishes to pursue child support through the state is a decision only that parent can make. While it can increase litigation and animosity, it can also serve to reduce conflict in the future. Accordingly, each parent must consider his/her situation and decide what he/she thinks is best for that particular circumstance.
One additional positive aspect of pursuing court-ordered child support is that the parent ensures that he/she will receive the full amount he/she is entitled to. Further, it can help the receiving parent to avoid harassment or conflicts with the other parent.
To get a rough idea of what amount of support a child might be entitled to, a parent can use an online child support calculator. This can help parents evaluate whether or not their out-of-court agreements are providing proper compensation.
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