We are divorcing with hearing set for Sept. 21. I am terrified. My husband is on medication, but has a history of not taking recommended medication. He is probably taking what is prescribed right now. My husband is a "suddenly" attentive parent with modest interaction before now. He is fun, and loves his child, but says inappropriate things (visit last weekend), "You can only love Daddy," for instance. Daughter, who arrived happy to see him, cried all the way home. I strongly suspect my daughter is also bi polar and has been an emotional wreck since last weekend. Neither of us have a formal history of any of the above, but he has been verbally abusive, calling me things like a "sticking c**t" in front of our daughter. He can and does present himself very well.
My daughter and I live at my parents home, and have since July1. My daughter is in a pre K program and has her own room.We were teacher's abroad, but this location is where my daughter has spent nearly of year of her life already. My husband is moving to San Diego, about 1/1/2 hours away. He is renting a room from a surfing buddy. It defies reason to me that a court would order a child of this age to be driven back and forth. I will be a stay at home mom this year, to be available to my daughter. My mother
, a retired educator, makes any unfamiliar babysitters unecesary. I want primary physical custody with specified visitation rights for my soon to be ex.
He is so erratic, but has never physcially abused me. Recent incident of some physical abuse
of his own mother so all indicators lead to that direction. He could NEVER be found mentally incompetent by court and I really prefer not to go down that road. I want him to see his daughter.