Hello, I would like to answer your question, but I need a little more information.
If the order requires no information back and forth, and no third parties to contact you, what would happen if one of the children was hurt when with the father?
How did any communication take place (concerning the children) prior to this incident?
Good question about what would happen if one of the children was hurt when with him. Since our daughter is 12, and I give her a phone to contact me with when with him, my guess is she would call me herself and tell me she had been hurt or her brother had been hurt. She would be doing it on her own to me is how I would view that.
Any communication regarding the children, their schedules, etc. has been done through an attorney. If he has to give short notice about something, he usually calls the exchange provider and tells her what he is doing, not going to be doing or he calls our daughter directly and tells her as it applies to her and the daycare provider directly, not me.
I think the big issue here is that his taking this trip during the timeframe he wants is not allowed by our parenting plan. He sent an email to my attorney about it, and I sent him an email back saying I was not going to pay for his use of an attorney anymore as I can't afford it. Said he needed to hire his own lawyer to work this out as DVPO against him states he can only communicate with me through the serving or mailing of court documents or his attorney. He doesn't want to pay for an attorney, rather abuse me some more with the cost, so he didn't do it.
Instead, he is just trying to do what he wants, and is violating our parenting plan by telling our daughter schedule changes which him and I have not agreed to. I believe he knows if he told her anything about the plans he was making he would know she would tell me as she always tells me things like this. He is just using her to get around having to hire an attorney to tell me what he is doing as it is against the parenting plan and he knows I won't agree to it.
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