Thanks for the chance to help. I am an attorney with over 12 years experience. Hopefully I can help you with your legal question.
The court has one question in determining child custody
and one question only....what is best for the child. That's it. Not how much money a parent makes, not the type of job or the size of the home, but what is best for the child.
Having said that, the court also will want to keep both parents in the kids life...since that is, in most cases, best for the child.
So if your goal is to leave the state, that can present problems...that makes it much more difficult for the court to choose sides.
In a case like this the best thing to do is work out a soloution...if you and dad can agree, the court will most likely support...but if you can not, you need a lawyer.
There is no real "free" legal in a case like this...if you can not agree, the court will want to hear evidence from each side...and to present that evidence you need a lawyer...one with experience in custody fights.
Please let me know if you have further questions; if so I will do my best to answer them. If not please hit the accept button, its the only way I get credit for my work.