I know Charlotte. She is a pain in the butt to litigate against. She's expensive, but she is respected and very competent. I personally recommend against hiring a family law attorney who has a take-no-prisoners approach because you almost always have to keep dealing with the other person on some level for the rest of your life, plus there is family involved, and it just does not set the right tone. But yeah, Charlotte won't be afraid to take anyone on.
If you really want someone competent who will take a scorched-Earth approach, you should try Karen Leder
. A lot of attorneys will not take a case against Karen because she draws so much blood and has so much venom. Again, I personally don't recommend this philosophy for family law matters (I would certainly for other types of matters).
I may know Greg Dwyer... if he is who I think that he is, he would probably be fine for this case. That's all that I can tell you, though.
I know two XXXXX XXXXXs in the area... for all I know, there may be more. Maybe you could be more specific before I comment?
Don protects his clients' interests, but is reasonable which makes him good to work with, and that is one of his strengths and one of the reasons that he can be effective without running the tab up. By contrast, Karen and Charolette are also effective, but their methods tend to create conflict... conflicts that the clients pay for at around $300 per hour. I perceive Don to be honest, and I think that his idea of moving jurisdiction to Idaho is a prime example--he would basically be moving the case out of his backyard (thus ending his representation and cash flow from you) because he believes that it may be the right thing for your case, not his wallet.
There is no shortage of things to fight over in a divorce, and your attorney may even be able to win some or most of those fights, but what is the value of winning a $3,000 issue if it costs $5,000 in litigation costs in the end and your spouse is left feeling bitter about how they were treated in the proceeding? This is the effect that I am hearing Jon Lydell has had on you, to an extent; again, I personally don't believe in this approach for family law matters (unlike business litigation and criminal law matters, to name a few areas).
But the most important thing is that you choose someone that you are comfortable with and have confidence in. I would almost never dissuade someone from retaining an attorney that they liked because, ultimately, they know what they want for their case.