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I really can't tell exactly what you have and have not filed. She has a right to request your information and you also have the right to request the same information from her. If she has an attorney and you are contesting something, then you also need an attorney. If you do not properly file then that issue will not be before the court. At this stage I am going to send you to the CA self help page. You should have already found this site. Take the time to read through the information and then I can assist with specific questions.
When you responded did you use a standard form?
Did you indicate that custody was contested?
An accept for my time is always appreciated and does not terminate my responses.