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This order came into play based on an incident that involved a physical altercation between him and I while the children were present. The mother of the children viewed this incident to be "harmful to the children", even though she was told about the incident by a third party.. therefore in my opinion she had a skewed image of what really happened right off the bat. There were police officers who responded to the incident, for the sole purpose of helping to look for lost keys on the side of a snowy highway. No one was arrested, and to the officers knowledge the children were sent home with the 2 of us (my boyfriends friend ended up taking the kids to their mothers house afterwards, without any direction by the police to do so). In my opinion, those 2 things (no arrests, and the children being allowed to go home with us) clearly point out the fact that the children nor anyone else were in harms way. We were not even given a police report!! We obtained a copy of the report on file, which says nothing about the physical altercation and nothing that incriminated myself or my boyfriend. This woman (his ex-wife) has had a problem with me from day one and would do anything to get me out of the picture, even though she herself is re-married. Any time there is an issue between her and my boyfriend concerning the kids and arranging their schedules, any time that my boyfriend will not cater to her wishes, she brings my name up as being the reason that he won't "do things for his kids" (such as drive them around to extracurricular activites on nights that the kids are scheduled to be with her... to me this would be considered doing HER a favor, since if the kids are suppose to be with her then that is her responsibility on that given day). When his ex-wife filed to modify their custody agreement to include the no contact order, he had filed for an enforcement of their agreement because she withheld the children from him based on the belief that i was going to be around the children. At this time there was no court order saying that i couldnt be around the kids. He was merely cooperating with her, because we had decided to take a break for a while to see if we still wanted to be together. The judge did not even address the fact that the kids were being withheld from him for 2 whole weeks! His ex-wife also lies to the children to make him look bad, and any time that he doesnt see the kids even if just for a day, she tells them that its because he is with me, and that he is choosing me over them. In my opinion she is emotionally abusing her own kids by putting them though this, and telling them lies. I think that sums up the situation for the most part... is there anyway to prove that she just wants to make our lives hell based on her hatred for me?