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my husband and I are finally divorced. He is a narrcissit

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my husband and I are finally divorced. He is a narrcissit and was emotionally and finally physically volient. The children witnessed several of the beatings. he is a alcholic.
the courts still insist he has his rights to see them although my daughter especially does not want to see him as he verbally abuses her, leaves she and her brother alone while he goes out drinking in even when they are out of town. she is 12 and he is 9. She has recouring dreams that he comes to the house to kill us and the neighbors are blind and dumb. How can we get legal help. I am broke because of this and my parents have paid many of the bills, and they are close to banruptcy because of this. And he won't pay child support!
Submitted: 6 years ago.
Category: Family Law
Expert:  AttorneyTom replied 6 years ago.
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Customer: replied 6 years ago.

Is there any recourse or are we stuck? will the courts protect the kids or are we fighting a loosing battle? why does he have legal standing when he is dangerous? been in jail for beatings?


Expert:  AttorneyTom replied 6 years ago.

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Typically, the courts focus on the best interests of the children. You may have grounds ti appeal, though it's necessary to take prompt action, as appeals must typically be filed within a very short period after a final order is entered.

As I'm not familiar with the details of your matter, there's no way I can tell you exactly why things have turned out the way they did. It sounds as though the law may have been improperly applied to the matter, as the court is supposed to handle custody and visitation matters in the best interests of the children. If the father is dangerous and has a history of domestic violence, the court should typically rule in your favor, provided you showed that history legitimately exists.

If you didn't have an attorney last time, you may find that you stand a better chance of succeeding if you retain an attorney. If you can't afford one, you may be eligible for legal aid from a local legal clinic. You may wish to call your county Clerk of Court's office to inquire about clinics that serve your area. The Clerk's office should be aware of the clinics, if any, that serve your area.

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