I see. This is what is usually called "establishing legal paternity."
He cannot do anything until he is legally recognized as the father. It is his case. You can file a Motion to Dismiss for failure to prosecute, but this might re-awaken his interest in the case. But if you want it over with, just file a Motion to Dismiss for failure to respond or prosecute.
Since you are married now, your best option is probably to file a Petition for Adoption in your current county (for your husband). If you can get this done, it will put an end to any paternity cases in the future.
I don't know of any websites that would provide that info specifically. But it is easy- Just copy the heading off of anything filed in the case. Title it "Motion to Dismiss" and just write something along the lines of "Comes now, Mother, pro se, and moves the Court to dismiss the cause herein, for the reason that Petitioner has failed to timely prosecute his action, and it has been 3years since any action has been made."
Sign it, serve a copy to the father, and mail it to the court.
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