Ok. The first thing he needs to do is file a Motion to Dismiss the Divorce she filed in VA. She has not lived there long enough to meet the residency requirement to file a divorce.
In order to file a divorce in VA, you have to have lived there at least 6 months. http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/VA/divorce/divexpln.htm#Residency
This should be fairly easy to accomplish. He just needs to file a Motion to Dismiss, for lack of personal jurisdiction, and file an Affidavit stating she did not move to VA until November, 2009.
From there, he needs to ask for provisional orders in his MD Divorce case. there are orders that take place during the divorce process, allowing him to visit the child immediately.
Do not worry, he will get to see the child, now and later. He has a visitation right.
It would be helpful to have a lawyer, and he should be able to find one. It is not that complicated, the lawyer you had just did not want to deal with (unfortunately, some lawyers are lazy). Find a different one.
You might contact the county bar association and see if there are any lawyers that are licensed in both VA and MD. But you should not need a lawyer to get the case dismissed in VA... it is cut and dried.