I have a daughter with my ex-husband who is 5. In the divorce judgment we both agreed to have child support
modified and do alternating weekends and not taking our daughter outside the L.A. County, San Diego or any other state outside of California(this is before I re-married my husband who serves in the military) When I got married my husband got orders to NC. My ex-husband did not want child support on his record so he asked that I take it off and he would agree to give me $350.00 (he makes close to 40,000.00 a year) per month via check. I asked that if I did take child support off, I would take my daughter to NC and we would practice summer/winter vacations and split the costs for traveling.
When i moved to NC at first things were okay. Then he started asking for his daughter in months we did not agree to. I currently had her in Pre-school so at times I had to pay for the full month and pull her out to bring her to CA to see her dad. Even though he never respected our verbal visitation agreement I always complied to his request in seeing his daughter. After living in NC for 3 years, my husband got orders to VA at first. Then my ex-husband started telling my daughter who is only 5, that it was not okay for her to be moving around every 3 years because it was unhealthy. I tried my best to reinforce my daughter in thinking positive and realizing that she would be okay and will continue a normal life. Well at the last minute my husband's orders changed back to CA.
Now that we are living in Ca problems began to occur as far as visitation and the time he wants his daughter. He has asked to take my daughter to MEXICO for family vacations (his wife's family) and I said NO. Reason being, because my daughter told me last week that her ste-mom gave her some wine to taste so she could see it was not a drink for kids. When I confronted her father about this, he stated that it was true and that he only did it because it was not a big deal and it was only a taste so she could see it was wrong for her to have some. Her step-mom does not speak to me (long story) but also tells her to do little things I disagree with, like poking and pinching butts, which my daughter did to me and told me her step-mom had asked her to do to her father. To make a long story short, he does not respect me, our agreements, the visitation, when speaking to me infront of my daughter if I disagree with something, he curses at me, yells at me and looses it infront of her. And if I say no to anything he asks, when he speaks to my daughter he tells her "I would've picked you up but your mother
does not want me to" He allows his wife to have a say in everything regarding our daughter and they cut her hair, and do other stuff without consulting me at all.
Now that I have denied him to take her out the country, he has threatened me that he will not allow me to take my daughter with me next time my husband gets orders out of state....... My main question would be that.... being that I am married to a military man if he gets orders again out of state, will a judge deny me to take her away if her biological father requests it???