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Exclusive rights to the home means that it is yours to do with as you see fit. Exclusive rights includes the right to deny visitors (which is what he is by virtue of the order). As such, he cannot come and go as he pleases and only with your permission. You likely have to provide him reasonable opportunity on a limited basis to retrieve his possessions, but it sounds like you are being much more than reasonable and you are actually being taken advantage of as a continued part of his controlling behavior.
Thank you. Would there be consequences to changing the locks on the doors at this point?