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Going strictly by the language of the MOA, it is difficult to say whether she can send someone other than herself to pick the child up, as the statement is merely that she shall provide transportation. It doesn't say that she should be the person to pick the child up, although that may be inferred. It may be appropriate in this case to seek a modification of the order to clarify the issue.
I disagree that the absence of a right of first refusal clause automatically works to interpret this provision as allowing anyone to pick up the child. However, since the language isn't clear, it could be interpreted either way. If your husband refuses to give the child to the person who picks him up, he could be subjecting himself to contempt charges, particularly given her attorney's opinion on the subject. Unless your husband legitimately fears for the child's safety, he should not deny the pick up.