I would make sure that the judge knew that, while you are willing to help him build a relationship with his daughter, you are concerned about his problems with alcohol. You are also concerned that it is not in your daughter's "best interests" for her father to be taking custody of her when he is hung over and still possibly under the influence from the previous evening. I would put that in the response and make sure the judge is aware of it. I would also print out some of the comments for the judge to see. While you can't control what he does when your daughter is not around, the judge can order him to not be under the influence when he has custody of her.
If he violates the order, that would give you grounds to ask the judge to terminate it and only allow supervised visitation, at his expense. He may eventually decide that he values his drinking more than his time with his daughter and voluntarily terminate his parental rights so you can proceed with the adoption.
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