Thank you for your question and I look forward to working on your answer. Also, it is important to know that I can only respond to your post and the information contained in it, as I do not know what you know, unless you describe it fully. Also, because you are at this site, you are asking me the question because you want the legal facts, as I see them, even if unfavorable to your situation from a legal perspective. Also, due to site tech reasons, oftentimes I am initially only able to see the first part of your post, so I apologize in advance if I ask a redundant question.
That being said, if you would like me to work on an answer for you, and in order to better assist you, could you please clarify for me:
1. When did you learn of it?
2. Is he still having the affair?
3. If not,when did it stop?
4. Did you 'forgive him' after the discovery and continue marital relations with him?
I look forward to getting to work on this for you. Hang in there!
S. Joy, Legal Expert
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I'm so sorry for your pain here,and I understand what you feel you need to do - I'd be right behind you in line at the courthouse if I were in that situation. Yes, you can file on grounds of adultery. He could seek to defend on the ground that you forgave, etc., if he were to decide to contest those grounds. Keep in mind also that adultery must be proven specifically, making for a rather crude divorce proceeding. If you'd rather avoid that, consider moving out while filing for custody and child support and/or spousal support, if applicable - if he won't support you willingly - the filing for a no fault divorce after 6 months living apart. 6 months will fly! Also, during those 6 months, you can try to negotiate an acceptable settlement agreement, so when it comes time to file, the issues are not contested and the actual divorce can fly through also.
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