Thank you for your question. I'm sorry to hear about your situation. A friend of mine recently went through something similar. It's disappointing how little justice there can be for a spouse on whom another spouse has cheated.
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Unfortunately, it appears that Virginia does not recognize the tort of alienation of affection. Virginia Family Code, Chapter 1.107. To my knowledge, the following states still recognize alienation of affection claims: Hawaii, Illinois, North Carolina, New Hampshire, Mississippi, New Mexico, South Dakota, and Utah.
However, if he has abandoned the marital home, that might assist you in seeking to keep the marital home in a divorce. It might also assist you in seeking child custody, if children are involved and are living with you.
I know this isn't what you want to read. However, it is the unfortunate truth that Virginia does not recognize alienation of affection any longer.
For any divorce proceeding, you'll want to retain a local attorney to protect your interests.
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