My divorce was finalized January 2007. I was unhappy with my represenation at the time.
I had 3 attorneys..an intrusive father...friends that left me...friends that betrayed me...
an abusive alcoholic husband...his girlfriend who was also seeking a divorce with a shared attorney. with him....family friends on my exhusband's side were not only leading members of the Episcapal Church we attended..but also good enough friends that they spent Christmas Eve dinner with us ..and his parents and sister and all the children..
this influential friend also leads the Trust Company in Knoxville, where the family trusts are housed..which also played into the divorce papers..I signed a quick claim deed losing my home under the impression that i had a family trust..this trust is governed by my father..who is absent and has remarried and has not been available for communication
for two years..finally I own realestate and can't get cooperation from family on the upkeep
and this has to do with my father being trustee..which needs to change..I have tried to stay very close to my church and school through all of this..and raising 2 girls post divorce has been less than favorable for me..I am noting the community bing completely absent and church seems to be redirecting me to another church..so honostly the financial and social losses are profound..I have joint custody..my husband lost his job and works out of our former home...and because my finances are so tight..he ends up being Mr. Mom..and I am over here completely able to take them full time...and have no one here to represent me and no money with wich to get an attorney..
I have actually had thoughts in that direction...I am seing a christian counsellor and attending an alternative church where I am doing a book study and casually accepting free counselling..at this point no one is recommending that I move..
I have been hit really hard financially and socially as i said..and feel that this may be more of a negative impact than what I can offer my children in the way of positive relationship...
What steps would be appropriate in making such a change legally with children involved?
I have an irrevocable trust...and was advised to sign off on my house..but the reality is the house was in both of our names...and the family i was married to simply said that *no*
we did not own the house ...that they loaned it to us...so looking back I feel that this is one of many innapropriate uses of power...the family used social position to get people to do things which hurt me in the divorce..and in the end my ex..lost his job and missed being with his children due to being an alcoholic..and this was a lifelong problem..not one that
suddenly occured due to stress...the politics actually ended up hurting both of us..and
the treatment I endured and the stress i experienced was life threatening and affected the children..I was an outstanding mother..and still am..but the manner in which the divorce was carried out hurt all of us..and the attorneys combined made over 150,000.00..and honostly I am not sure how much of that is traceable..and what is actually truth..I didn't even get all of my thinkgs..and my husband dumped the stuff he didn't want into a storeage unit and left me with a $700.00 bill...this just the tip if the iceburg
Can you please rspond to the above..my husband has health issues..so I can't see
leaving without some action steps to make it work here..moving is a last resort..
please respond to the above in light of the fact that the rights of the mother have been overlooked and the disparity and social impact has affected me the mother in ways that are unfair to the current governing of children..so I am wondering how tofind some justice or again take legal step appropriate to this situatiom
As i said before, I now own my own home. My husband lives in our former home.
the children stay with each of us every other week...I need a sense of community and a sence of Justice and a return to normalcy...I do not have contact with my family..and that is good...my children who are my primary responsibility need my community to snap back..so we can pick it back up..it has nothing to do with being attached to my husband..and it has everything to do with living a normal life in my hometown after ...as I see it ...the town did not back me..and they still are not with me...There is no need for Stephens ministry..this is a small gossipy town...I have support in my new church environment..and am looking torward developing a career again..so before I dig down and moveforward I need to know I am going to be working on a team..not oa battlefield..there is no point in that ...my kids would be better off without that...
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