Did/do you have an attorney in the divorce? Did you and your wife have an attorney in the bankruptcy, and if so, was it anyone involved in the divorce case?
While there may be a conflict of interest for her attorney, it seems to me that the party to complain may be the business if the attorney allowed his representation of your wife to color his decisions in the claim the business had agaisnt you or in the bankruptcy.
Your mother should have had an attorney to protect her in the bankruptcy and not allow her to be drawn into it. Perhaps you and she can work out something about the house now that the divorce has gone through.
The biggest problem seems to be with the attorney who represents you in the divorce. If primary residential placement and support are being established, then visitation should have been also. In any event, if nothing has been set in stone, ask for the standard visitation schedule to be followed.
Unfortunately, if you are not the primary residential parent, you are going to be expected to pay support. If your wife had a part in getting you fired from your job, you may be able to use that to reduce support until you can find new employment. That you wife makes more will mean that you will have to pay less under most statutory formulas.
If you do not have an attorney representing you in the divorce, you need to get one.
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