I just noticed your additional information which I did not have the chance to read until just now.
A restraining order can only be obtained if she has threaten to harm you or the children. So if she has not done that you cannot obtain the restraining order. What you will need to do is immediately file for custody and obtain the temporary orders
be with you while you wait for the custody hearing to take place.
A restraining order can only be obtained if there has been domestic violence
or a threat of violence in order to get it.http://www.aoc.state.nc.us/magistrate/50b.htm
So your recourse is to file for custody and obtain temporary orders you.
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