I really need to know he my husband is obigated to pay my legal fees and support me for at least 1/2 length of marraige. We have a nice home in Coronado. Although I know most of the equity that's left after morgages (remodels) is about the amount HE put down on the house, from the sale of his condo. He also owns an airplane, condo (colorado)...yaught....stuff like that. He refuses to sell anything...insisting that I try to work full time to help pay our bills........I work very hard in our home...gardenning, cleaning, ironing, cooking...etc....I'm just confused. He has treated me like a child for so long...I wonder if I'll ever feel strong enough to make it on my own.
Can he be made to provide funds immediately? When I move out...I'll have nothing but a car (paid for) my personal belongings, and a $20,000 engagement ring. That it..according to him...everything else is his because he "earned it" even though we were married.
It's me again. I just found this site by accident. I'm amazing that I am reading this.
Well I'm still married...9 years now. I do have another question to ask.
My health has declined.....especially mentally. Being put down every day makes it worse. I'm being treated by a Psychiatrist, Psychologist, and have been on powerfull medications by my Liver specialist for HCV (chronic hepatitis C virus) My treatment lasted 48 weeks....lost my hair, sever depression, retinal henorrhages are some of the side effects. I am still very weak and the verbal and emotional abuse is really takig a toll.
All my friend who know him think I should leave and although I want to most of the time, I feel so dependent on him. He has never allowing me to have any joint accounts, when we bought the house 9 years ago he persuaded me to sign a Quick Claim Deed. I' have to ask mor any money and get a lecture if there is even I spoon in the sink. Ijust don't have the strength to leave .....He says I am mentally ill and disfuctional and will never be able to live a productive life. Basically he's like a father He absolutly refuses to go get counseling. I know all of this info is for a shrink...not an attorney. But I thought this could help. My doctors tell me I prob will not be able to work full time again. I sound like a real winner!
I just want to try a separation...he refuses to do that. So I would have to file for divorce...once I go there I can't turn back. I have no money and we have a lot of debt.
If I could wait one more year to leave then we would have been married ten years. would that make a difference in the amount or length of time I could get support? California laws a complicated.
SOOO sorry for the long ramble.
Any advice would be very appreciated.
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