Thank you for the clarification.
Okay, then this is what will have to be done:
1) Since she is giving you custody, you must first file for a modification of the custody orders. This will be done through a stipulation of the new agreed parenting arrangements. You need to first change custody to name yourself the custodial parent in order to then proceed with getting child support stopped.
2) Once you have a court order showing you have changed custody, you can then agree to have support stopped or collected from her if that is what you want to do.
Given that the state is involved, it is unlikely they will proceed in terminating support until they see an order changing custody over to you.
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