My current family (kids and wife) wont accept this child as part of the family. I see this child being neglected or evenly abused if they were to come. I pay child support now but it has taken a tow on my current family.
Are there laws that speak to the best interest of the child that support these type of payments.
Same situation here: How would you respond to this person.
I am married and I had an affair. The woman I had the affair with deliberately got pregnant because she was getting ready to turn 40 and her mother had a heart attack and she wanted her mother to have a grand child before she died. I found out about her being pregnant when she was about 6 months along. She stated the above reasons for getting pregnant deliberately. When I found out I told her that I did not want another child and she said that this was her child and she would handle it on her own. I did not see or hear from her again until the child was almost two and then she started to ask me for money to help pay for the child's daycare. She said that this would be over when he went to school - since then she has started to ask for more money and states that she will not take me to court but I needed to continue sending the money. We live in the state of Virginia. I want to give up my parental rights and stop sending this mooney. I don't see the child and do not want to have a relationship with him. She said that this was her child. Can I give up my rights. We have never had a paternity test. I don't know if it is my child. What do I do? Before we started this affair we discussed the fact that neither of us wanted children. So I thought I was safe. I know I was wrong for having the affair and I really regret having it. My wife is really hurt but she is standing by me and we are trying to pick up the pieces. I want to spend the rest of my life making this up to my wife but this support is a burden and it makes me angry because she deliberately did this. Please help me!
It doesnt matter that I was married to another person while this child was consumed?
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