My apologies for misunderstanding your initial question. My fault. I should have realized that when you said “How can I get out of paying child support?”
what you were actually and clearly asking was how you could fulfill your child support obligation through a means or method other than payment of money to the other parent.
State procedures and requirements for payment of child support by noncustodial parents are heavily controlled by federal laws and are thus pretty-much the same throughout the country. Under these procedures, the government does not trust you to just take care of your children’s needs on your own, without having to be restricted to paying a certain amount each money as set by a court order.
However, there may be some creative ways of getting around the usually required legal procedures.
For example, you and the child’s mother can reach an informal agreement whereby she pays back to you each month all or some of the child support money she otherwise receives from you.
Alternatively, the mother can request that all existing orders requiring you to pay child support be terminated, thus leaving the entire matter in the private hands of you and the other parent, without any governmental involvement.
Thirty years of family law
legal practice has taught me that it is extremely rare for a custodial parent
(particularly the mother) to voluntarily agree to either of the aforementioned arrangements. In essence, the custodial parent is, as a matter of law, ENTITLED to receive child support from the noncustodial parent. And the only way around that is if she voluntarily gives up (waives) her legal right. And they generally are not willing to do that. So you end up having to pay support in the same manner as all other noncustodial parents. And this is usually true even if your have joint/shared custody (unless you end up having the child spending the majority of overnights with you and your income is less than the other parent’s income).
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