Thank you for your question.
If your spouse is hiding assets, you may have a claim against him for breaching a fiduciary duty. However you would need to prove this. In order to prove this you would need to go beyond an asset search, you need an attorney who is versed in voluminous discovery. The attorney needs to know what type of paper trail needs to be followed to find the assets. An asset search will not necessarily reveal everything if assets have been craftily hidden.
The reason your attorney may be urging you to let the house go could be attributable to the debt ratio you may need to absorb if you try to get half of the assets across the board. Given any equity in the home in this climate, you may not be able to appeal to the Judge to cease an order to sell/refinance or buy out the home. It really sounds like this case will need to go through trial.
If you feel you are being disrespected, then you need an effective advocate that you feel comfortable with. However, it is apparent that this case requires effective and knowledgeable counsel.
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