Bless you! Wow! You confirmed several things we "thought" to be true, but didn't know Oregon Law. You deserve some affirmations on your deep insight, yet, careful assumptions. Then, we have two more questions.
1) Their divorce was final 1 1/2 yrs. ago.
2) Bully? Ha! That's a kind word for what we call him, never to his face, of course! He uses coercion on our daughter OFTEN, when he wants things to go his way. Now, he threatens us, the grandparents, by saying we cannot be with the children unless we do this or that. If we refuse, he tells our daughter he will shorten the amt. of time she has with the two children.
3)He has physical placement of the children in his home ONLY because our daughter was so sexually and verbally abused by him behind closed doors, that she ran, put herself under psychiatric care and counseling. She was too ill to understand the legal documents when the "X" brought them to her to sign. Now, she's strong, but financially broke. So we'll need to come up with the funds if she wants to pursue "joint" custody. Thus, shutting off his "control" over all of us.
Our next question: Are his acts of threatening
to abbreviate her amount of divorced-decreed "mother's time" called "coercion" and are acts of coercion illegal in the State of Oregon?
We live 3 blocks from them and have been with the grandkids since they were born. (now, 5 & 7 Yrs.) Because he does not like us and he will do anything to keep us away from the children, he just told us we cannot be with our grandchildren without supervision and we must take a parenting class!!! Can he actually keep us from being with the grandchildren if we don't obey his commands?
When listing 30 accredited reasons why we CAN be with our own grandchildren two days ago, all he responded with was, "So?"...."So?....."So?....."So?" He has ZERO respect for our daughter and us, yet, the divorce was due to HIS abusing HER!!
Brokenhearted and confused,Customer