Hi. I'm online and happy to answer your question today.
I'm sorry to hear that you are having so many problems with the multifocal lens.
Unfortunately there is no good way, as of yet, to simulate the experience of the lens you had implanted in your eye prior to doing the surgery. Sure, the tradeoffs some patients experienced can be discussed at length but, as you know, that really doesn't make the issue clear.
It is possible that, over time, the difficulties you are experiencing will become less. Sure, you will still need readers for upclose but the problems you have with reflections/glare and halos may become less noticeable.
You do have one option available to solve this problem, although there are risks involved. You can ask your surgeon to remove the lens from your eye and replace it with a monofocal lens (such as your wife has). I do not believe you can expect a refund on the money you have already spent on the mulitfocal lens as it would have to be thrown out after being inside your eye (or you could take it home to show your grandkids :) although, maybe, some partial refund could be worked out with the manufacturer.
What risks would you be taking? Well, most all of the same risks that you undertook during your first cataract surgery along with risks intrinsic to the removal of the implanted lens such as vitreous loss, damage to the capsular bag and need to place the new lens in an alternate location such as the sulcus, the anterior chamber or actually suture it in place.
Ernest, this may be something you might consider discussing with your ophthalmologist. Once again, I'm sorry to hear of your difficulties.
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