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I love your spunk and spirit about it all! I think that if you do offer the destination invitation, it is appropriate to pay for both nights. They are paying for travel down and want to come and celebrate. You can ask them to RSVP for specific rooms, but then if they do not RSVP by the set date, then they are obligated to their own expenses.....
I do hope that you found some clarity in the response given. It sounds like you are planning quite the party and happy early birthday! If I can assist you any further, please let me know.....Thank you, Jules