Last year i my partner passed away ,we were not married on paper (we did have plans and even applied for the license ), we lived together , have credit card together , taxes , insurance and etc. He didnt have a will in place at his passing , as i didn't know how things work in NY state, much less i didn't know what probate
was, basically i was lost in translation for months so i trusted his father (that lives in SC)knew what to do.Fast Forwarding 6 months struggling months i found out his father had submit a claim to be the executor of my partners state without my knowledge, as well without any knowledge of his sons financial matters or anything. Since everything happen i made it very clear that i had access to everything as well i will continue living in NYC, so i will be more than happy to administrate the state that is not big , but had a lot bills to be paid . Well his father file before i even knew what probate was, and the court granted him. Even thought the information specially the figures filled with court were completely made up and false. As an executor his father main thing was to make my life hell, as well he let all bills go to collections that causing a big mess for me because of the cards we had together got reported on my credit as bad credit (tried to work with the father on it but its impossible) later on while talking to his mother about how upset i was about his irresponsible, neglect , poor administrative work , i came to find out that my partner had made me a beneficiary of one of his retirement accounts, for my surprised his father knew about it for months but tried to hide it from me, out of anger because he wanted to collect the funds. So far the state is in total disaster , and i ended paying some of the outstanding bills out of the little money i received , because he refused to do so, he doesn't even know what he has paid or not , but claims that the state has no fund left because he used all the funds and paid one single creditor(great admt. skills!!).
Here is question; Can i file something like auditing or complain about misusing funds or fraud against ? and offer myself to administrate the state from this point on??? Because the man is making my life miserable and doesn't help or allow me to even request my partners medical records, that i so need it!!! Please anyone help me