Estate Law Questions? Ask an Estate Lawyer.
Good morning. I am Loren,a licensed attorney, and I look forward to assisting you. I am sorry to hear of your dilemma. I realize how frustrating this is for you and I hope to provide you information which is accurate and useful, even though it may not be the news you were hoping to get.
It was not the least bit out of line. You can always ask. However, form a legal standpoint the trustee is bound by the terms of the trust with regard to the disposition of assets. Unless the trust contains a provision for your right of first offer or first refusal, your sentimental attachment is legally irrelevant and the trustee is bound to make the best deal he can if he sells the house.
So, if you ever want to buy the house you will have to make sure you make the best offer. Then the trustee could be breaching their fiduciary duty if they do not sell to you.
I realize this is probably not the answer you were hoping to receive. Also, please remember that this is not a moral judgement on my part. As a professional, however, I am sometimes placed in the position of having to deliver news which is not favorable to a customer's legal position, but accurately reflects their position under the law. I hate it, but it happens and I only ask that you not penalize me with a bad or poor rating for having to deliver less than favorable news.