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The employer is correct that a QDRO can be difficult to interpret. This is especially true of a QDRO from 20 years ago, because, frankly, many such orders were poorly drafted, due to the fact that lawyers are not generally very good at accounting, and because there was little standarization in QDRO format 20+ years ago.
The employer will not stall forever. It will either start paying out, or it will inform you that the QDRO is invalid. Rather than starting with a costly law firm to try to force a result from the employer, you may want to contact the U.S. Department of Labor Employee Benefits Securities Administration (EBSA). EBSA can call the employer and request information, which sometimes will produce positive results at no cost to the employee or nonemployee alternate payee.
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