Here is what I suggest that you do. I suggest that you ask the private school to meet with you in person and the two of you make an attempt to correct/amend your son's record under mutually acceptable terms. State that the reason you want to do this is that you believe that the record may contain inaccurate or misleading comments or statements.
Once this letter is sent, then write another letter to the new school stating that there may be a delay in it being able to obtain your son's behavior record from the private school for the reason that the accuracy of the records is being formally disputed.
If the private school then fails to comply with your request, you may need to hire a local defamation lawyer to send them a demand letter asking for the record to be corrected under the threat of a defamation and racial discrimination suit. A letter like this should cost about $200.00. Hopefully, this will bring the private school to the bargaining table.
Here is a list of lawyers that may be able to assist you in your area.
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