I am so sorry for your loss and this is so fresh and you are in the grieving process which can take it's own path and it's own time. Try to go easy on yourself during this time. I think the first dream signifies how out of sorts you are and nothing feels right or normal and that is shown by him being in a bar, acting different and also not being able to come home..since he has passed. Your sadness and deep pain around his loss leaves you feeling out of control and wanting him to still be here with you, but no matter how you try you can't get him to come home..in the bar in the dream and in your life. The dream about standing by him and him holding your hand indicates the love between you and not being able to understand what he was saying feels to me a lot about the confusion you may be feeling about his death and how you will be without him. His anger that you felt in the dream may be more about some anger you might have about him not being here for you after he told you he would never leave.
I wish you comfort today and every day. Get yourself as much support as you can and let yourself feel all that you feel.
Let me know how else I can support you.