Thank you and that is completely understandable and normal.
You husband in real life would have never done any of the things he is doing in your nightmares right?
Your husband still loves you from beyond, there is no question of that. He is not here anymore but still exists, just not on earth. This is what you are not used to and are learning how to live without him, even though your emotions do not want to learn this and are fighting the loss and the change.
There is wonderful news for you in this tragedy believe it or not. Some day you will be with him again, and in the meantime you can use dreams to communicate and to have time with him.
First you will need to start with your emotional wounds, start mending, healing and soothing that deep pain.
There are many different ways of doing this, prayer life is very important here as you can be directed to exactly what will need to be done, there is also therapy, best friend relationships, writing a journal, etc...Every person is different and you know yourself best, ***** ***** will know what feels right to you on how to do zero in on the healing. I personally rely on prayer to guide me and to show me where to go, what to do, and it never fails.
Once you start this or continue on with this, as you may have already have started this process (may just be stuck), then you will begin your new relationship with your husband. You can still talk to him, you can write to him, and when you go to sleep you can set the stage for a pleasant dream where he can visit and it will be a wonderful experience and not a nightmare anymore.
These dreams will leave you emotional for days, but is in a good way, not what you are encountering now with the nightmare residues.
Understand that the new relationship cannot begin until there has been enough healing on your part, and this does not mean for you to rush it or for you to feel guilty or inadequate, it is time to love yourself, and come to acceptance. This is what you husband would want and does want, because then he can reach out to you and it can be a pleasurable experience and your love can flow both ways as before.
You end is just plugged up right now, he is free and wants more then ever to you know hes here, just in a different realm, LOVES you, and it is not the end!
How is this sounding to you so far?