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I had a dream last night. I was crossing a rope bridge holding my 15 month old son. It was stormy, windy and a raging river was below. there were big gaps in the bridge and as I crossed those, the gaps kept getting bigger and bigger. I ended up in the middle of the bridge. I couldn't go back and forwards was a huge gap. I was trying to juggle my child and hold on. when i realised i could not move, a helicopter came to rescue us. Thoughts that I associated with this dream is that i had to be strong and determined.
Already Tried: I have been going through a big transition in my life. I am weaning my 15 month old son, I am beginning to ask for support from family and friends to help baby sit my kids which is a big milestone for me, and i am re evaluating my current relationship in terms of getting my needs met after battling depression
It sounds like you already have some insight into what your dream is about --that's a great start!
As scary as some of the images in the dream might be, overall it sounds like a very positive dream. It sounds like you were not going to let go of your son no matter what. The determination was positive as was being rescued.
Bridges tend to be "transitional" symbols in dreams anyway, and bridges over water suggest that the transition is emotional in nature. And, I think the gaps in the bridge and the storm support that --the emotions might be scary, the transition is scary. Weaning can be an emotional experience for Moms, but it sounds like the battle with depression and the issues that you alluded to about your relationship might be even more significant than that.
Keep in mind that in the dream your son may not represent your literal son in real life, but could also be symbolic about what is going on inside of you. Babies in general can represent "new beginnings," "new joy," or just represent the part of you that is emotionally vulnerable.
However, like I said --the fact that you were rescued in your dream is a very positive element. The helicopter might be indicative of your willingness to ask for help from family/friends, but keep in mind it might also represent a part of you too :) It could represent your own "power" and willingness to move forward through this transition.
I hope that my thoughts help add to the insight that you already have. Please feel free to follow up with me further if you'd like.
Regards,
Dr. Fee
Hi Dr fee,
I think you are right about the transition, emotions and fear about the future. My partner works a lot and is away for long periods at sea and I have recently told him that some of my needs have not been met while he is at home ie: attention, affection, family time, more support. I told him I have been seeing a psychologist and would discuss it more when he returns, and he is now out of phone range for a couple of weeks. Its the first hurdle we've come to in the 6 1/2 yrs we've been together and yes I think it will be positive changes for both of us. I believe I am holding strong for the relationship, but a little nervous unsure of how things will pan out, as we are not good communicators and I have realised I have to and want to initiate the change.
It certainly makes sense that you would have some anxiety, if it's your first big hurdle and you don't know how he will handle the fact that you'd like some changes.
One thing though, if you're working on becoming a better communicator, sometimes that's contagious for partners, because you're modeling it for him.
So it sounds like the dream is really speaking to what's going on in your life --it's interesting that your partner works "at sea" and that you had stormy water as part of your dream!
Experience: Psychologist specializing in anxiety and trauma recovery