I keep having the same type dream every night over,devistating global apocolypse ( not sure what caused it or why) but i am fighting to keep my family alive. I havent watched any showes
Welcome to my dream interpretation studio, where your scenes & symbols can reveal a higher source's view of you & your life & develop your wisdom. So, the world around you is coming to an end. What are the methods of destruction? Fire? Floods? Freezing? Earthquakes? The symbols you're seeing for that ending could clarify the meaning.
You're fighting to keep your family alive. Who's most visible among the family members you're trying to keep alive? What are you doing to keep them alive?
There's something in your waking life or in your most unsettling thoughts and feelings that's threatening your connection with your family and perhaps their connection with each other too. What are you experiencing now that could be threatening this?
40yrs interpreting dreams & connecting conscious & unconscious minds
my husband and kids, finding a safe place
not sure i stopped speaking to my parents to keep my husband and children happy and safe but that was almost a year ago. in the dreams i want to die so as not for me and my family suffer but we cant die
also i am never sure of the reason there is just complet anarchy an so much pain, i wake up crying and yelling no no, my husband has to comfort me and it happends atlest 2x a night
Wow! I didn't know you've been explaining what is happening while I've been writing. So you have a huge split between your parents, who seem to be pulling you one way, and your husband and children, who are pulling you away from your parents. What do your parents want from you that your husband doesn't want them to have? This may be the most important part of the issue.
When I first started writing my ideas about your dreams I thought: You are a young adult who needs to go out on her own quest for unique identity and values in the world, and that means leaving your family of origin behind, and THAT is what feels like the End of The World, because they don't want to let you go out into the big bad world and leave them behind. You also are scared of a big world that your parents have somehow taught you to fear that you couldn't handle without them constantly guiding you.
Now I understand that even caring more for your own husband and kids than for staying under your parents' guidance is something they don't want to allow. And your husband can feel quite strongly that they're pulling you back by your heartstrings,and he has to pull you away from them or you'll never be able to live your life as a wife to him and a mother to your kids instead of as their daughter who's too weak to know what she wants and to do what she needs to do to make her own life work.
It's quite a normal struggle that happens, usually between the girl's mother and thegirl's husband, for who the girl (you) gives her greatest love and loyalty to. Read the myth of Pluto & Persephone, where Pluto actually has to kidnap the lovely daughter Persephone to get her away from her paradise of childhood with her loving-too-much mother. If this is what's going on, then your mother & perhaps also your father, if they're together, believe that your husband is bad for you, that he does drugs, or abuses you, and that he's poisoning you against your parents, so they can't save you from his evil doings. Instinctively I'm on your husband's side, since I've seen dozens of 20something women AND men whose parents were pulling them back into childhood dependencies while their new partners were demanding that they should stop listening to what their parents want and start focusing much more on what they and their love-partner want together.
It's possible that your husband IS bad for you in some ways, or even REALLY bad. That would make it a lot harder for you to choose which side of the tug-of-war that's going on inside of your heart you will stand with, and which side you will cut the rope with (Husband/Pluto-fo-the-Underworld) vs (Mom w Dad helping her to plead with and guilt-trip you into "coming back home where you belong").
ANARCHY. That suggests to me that either your Parents rule you (mom but with dad as her warrior-in-chief) or your Husband rules you (but if you take your own power back from your mother and father, you'll be able to take care of your own desires and needs with your husband).
But if you really are as "weak" as your mother (& father?) might think you are, then perhaps your husband can and does walk over you. If that's true, I'd suggest half a dozen counseling sessions with (probably) a woman therapist who could help you discover and build up your own self-confidence and assertiveness. Then you'd start being able to tell your parents when to back off and when to come forward, AND tell your husband what you want and get him to agree also. Balancing Love and Power is a very challenging task in adulthood, so you might benefit a lot from a female Power Coach (but not a Life Coach, I mean a licensed individual and potentially couple counselor.
Is this about what's going on between your older generation and your own new family? I have to do some work in our kitchen, but I'll check back before shutting this down.
i belive you hit the nail on the head with most only being that i belive my parents hate my husband because he is the one to show me the abuse they put me through and to sever any ties with them.my husband is what most woman wish for. do you think that worring about my husband cancer is reflected in this dream at all? my parent are evil sabatogeing my husbands job smoking pot infront of the children and trying to have my kids taken when i stopped them from seeing my parents
That's sure a scary spot to be in, to have your best protector suffering from cancer. My wife has suffered quite a bit from 7 years of cancer treatment, but she is cancer free at present. At the time when she was first diagnosed, I found 6 alternative treatments in only about 2 weeks, and wrote to 2 of the researchers involved. But we still followed all of what conventional doctors wanted, since I wouldn't leave any stone unturned. If I knew the type of cancer and its severity I might have a few suggestions for treatment that wouldn't interfere with the conventional approaches. But I don't want to intrude into that arena if you don't want a nonmedical person's ideas.
If I hit the nail on the head, then you might have some residual loyalties to your parents that make the tug-o-war I mentioned go on inside of you. It's quite normal for abused children, like abused spouses, to keep ties with parents because the emotions of fear, hurt, anger and guilt all suddenly lift away when moments of happiness occur, leaving the abuse victim unconsciously waiting & hoping for that magical return to healthy happy family to occur again and last longer next time. That expectation is NOT stupid, since it's based in primal emotions, but it is unnerving, self-worth-crushing, and crazy-making.
Do your parents have any financial power over you? Is there any way you can summon the police to protect you or prosecute them? What support do you have for your husband's medical crisis? If your apocalypse has fire in it, that could symbolize his cancer. But dreams don't just come to show us how awful our waking lives are, they usually bring us some means of inner strength and/or show us how we might move forward to not only survive but also grow&mature from our outer experience. I'd need more specific details of some of the dreams, plus the specific recent triggering events & experiences for each dream described, if you can still remember them as linked upwith triggering circumstances&developments. But we ,could need more time than you want to give it (like in a Jungian dream analysis session). For the more important issues are in the real world: helping your husband, building better walls against your parents' negative influence, and seeing in the midst of your apocaleptic dream symbolism the way to move thru it to the new world on the other side.
What are you doing on each of these 3 issues?
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Have your dreams changed in any way since you brought them to JA? Have you tried talking to your husband about your worry that everything in your family's world will just come crashing down or burn up if the change that's coming up really happens? Does it help you to accept that you might be afraid that the safety of your family will be shattered by the change that's coming soon? Can you find people who've been thru what you're going thru who can coach you on keeping your world working pretty normally in spite of the big change that seems inevitable? I still don't know what's involved in your apocalyptic big-change, and I'd like to know that, in case I might be able to coach you some myself--or perhaps coach your husband on how to cope and help you cope with what's happening.
Do you have those feelings I wrote about, that most abused young people have about their abusive parents (or boyfriends), because sometimes the parents are good to you--and you're SO HUNGRY for that love that you DESERVE that you hang onto them in the expectation that they'll feel that love and show it again. It's pretty hard to rely solely on your husband when he's sick, so you could easily yearn to have your parents support you the way your husband can't. Could you get help and emotional support from HIS family? Is his family giving HIM emotional and even financial support? If your parents have the $$ to help you out, and his parents don't have it, then you're even more likely to need what yours can give. So they can have that power over you,