What does it mean if you dream of a man whom you've met and he appears fat in a dream but in reality he is tall and slender? This man has been showing an interest in me since we met a couple of months ago.
Before I get into the interpretation, I would like to ask you some questions.
1) how do you feel about the man in your waking life?
2) what were your feelings in the dream when you saw him presented as fat?
3) did you have any interaction with him in the dream? If so, what?
Thank you - I will await your answers.
Thank you for replying to my question.I've been told that many women like him and therefore I have just been reminding myself of that and not entertaining the thought of getting involved with him. We talk every day which is nice but I am not sure how I feel about him. I'm being very cautious I guess.I can't recall feeling anything except noticing that he is fat and thinking that I know he is not supposed to be.No I did not have any interaction with him - I just saw him from across the room.
Okay - that makes sense. Thank you!
So, my guess is that he was fat in your dream because you are sensing something about him that is off (and possibly unattractive) in your waking life. Another possibility is that you see him as being glutted with the attention of other women. Your subconscious mind translates this in a literal fashion by making him fat in your dream. I would go with the second interpretation if you didn't have any feelings of repulsion in the dream. If you just had a reaction of "that's curious," it probably just means that you see him as being rich with something (adulation, perhaps?).
It's interesting too that you saw him from across the room. Your subconscious mind was putting physical distance between you and him - this could indicate that you either don't want to be closer to him or that you feel distanced in some other way (emotionally?) You indicated in your response earlier that you are being cautious and your dream seems to be reflecting that.
I welcome your thoughts.
Your interpretation is spot on. He lives in another town (physical distance) and is planning to come to my town for eight days to spend time with me. I am a little worried that he is coming all that way and he isn't aware that I am unsure about how I feel about him. I should tell him but it isn't easy because I think he is a really nice guy (so I do like him as a person). I'm trying not to get emotionally involved but he seems to be since he keeps saying how much he is looking forward to seeing me next week.
Wow - that's interesting! Your subconscious is reflecting that ambivalence back to you.
Just out of curiosity, is it the fact that he has several women interested in him the factor that puts you off? I ask because his intentions toward you seem pretty clear...
Maybe it sounds silly, but yes I am put off by it. He lives in another town and all these women are interested in him, so I feel like he could get involved with any one of them. I am trying to stay realistic about the situation. He has asked me to go to his town as well and I have been making excuses as to why I can't leave town at the moment. He has only been in my company a few times and he says things like 'I can't wait to see you and hold you in my arms' and I just think he is a little too intense too soon. Also, I ended an almost 10 year relationship a year ago so maybe that is also why I am being cautious.
I see. It sounds like you're being appropriately cautious (for now). You may be on to something with his advances being so intense right away. Relationships don't usually progress that way. However, I'd hate to rule out something good by being too tenative... Either way, I think you're doing the right thing by exploring the relationship on your own terms (and on your turf). It's safer and more familiar. Also, you can give yourself time to learn about him and his history. If there are red flags, maybe your caution is correct - if not, just enjoy the journey!
I have to say, your subconscious sounds very smart! :)
Clinical and Forensic Psychologist