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I am sorry to hear about this situation. This is called spousal privilege. In Kansas, this is under KSA 60-428. The spousal privilege rule does not apply:
(1) in an action by one spouse against the other spouse, or (2) in an action for damages for the alienation of the affections of the other, or for criminal conversation with the other, or (3) in a criminal action in which one of them is charged with a crime against the person or property of the other or of a child of either, or a crime against the person or property of a third person committed in the course of committing a crime against the other, or bigamy or adultery, or desertion of the other or of a child of either, or (4) in a criminal action in which the accused offers evidence of a communication between him or her and his or her spouse, or (5) if the judge finds that sufficient evidence, aside from the communication, has been introduced to warrant a finding that the communication was made, in whole or in part, to enable or aid anyone to commit or to plan to commit a crime or a tort.
So one can be made to testify. However, she may omit what he stated to her based on the above, unless it is one of the 5 exceptions in which case she has to testify.
Finally, even if there is a no contact order in place, you can communicate with his attorney.
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