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In a case of alleged domestic violence, the police do not have to give any warning call, that is something that is discretionary to the investigating officer. The officer merely needs evidence supporting the allegations of the harassment (such as showing the text messages or phone calls) and the police could decide there is sufficient probable cause
to arrest based on that information they are observing.
The reason the police write these up and charge the alleged defendant is because they want to be absolved of any accusations of liability in case the situation escalates. They send them to the DA to deal with so that the DA can evaluate the parties and that places any liability on the head of the DA or the Court
and not the police department as they are extremely cautious about any types of possible domestic violence, such as harassment or stalking which generally seem to escalate over time.
Did you have a legitimate reason to contact him, yes, to find out about a potential danger to your health, but this is something you need to prove to the court because the police do not want the liability for making that decision.