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I hope this message finds you well, present circumstances excluded. I have a practice that encompasses a lot of work relative to firearms and the rights of firearm holders. It is a pleasure to assist you today.
Are you saying that your wife will not put it in writing that it is okay for you to have or carry a gun? Just want to make sure.
Sorry for the late reply...traveled some over the weekend.
They only other way that I can think of would be for you to file an affidavit with them that you covenant not to engage in any illegality, if she is unwilling to sign something herself. In the affidavit, you can specifically state that she has stated she has not problem with it be is unwilling to sign a letter to that affect. This is your sworn statement as to her position. It is technically hearsay, but since this is not a formal legal proceeding, per se, that should not matter.
If that does not work, you can seek an injunction in a court of competent jurisdiction wherein you seek to enjoin the police from holding your permit without cause. In the injunction, you will have to show the court that you have tried everything else and you can or will receive irreparable damage if this injunction is not awarded.
Let me know if you have any other questions or comments.
Best wishes going forward!