My name is ***** ***** I am a New York criminal defense lawyer.
You've been charged with a class A misdemeanor for damage to the complainant's vehicle. This has a maximum possible penalty of a year in jail. The DA may consider knocking it down to a B misdemeanor or even to a violation with restitution to the complainant for the value of the damage, unless your insurance paid out the complainant.
The odds of an ACD, in my experience are not good, as DA's don't like coming down more than one level for purposes of a disposition. You can try, but even the dis con may have to be negotiated.
You're not going to go to jail for this. But there's more to worry about than just jail, because if you are convicted of a misdemeanor, New York does not expunge convictions, so you'll end up with a criminal record. You certainly don't want to be convicted of a misdmeanor if you're trying to adopt two children.
For that reason, you're best off showing up with a criminal lawyer for the best chance of keeping this off of your record. What you may want to do is to bring pictures of the damage to your own car, so that your lawyer understands the bigger picture and can push for the ACD.