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I am sorry to hear about this. I am going to assume she also lives in CA. If not, then please REPLY and let me know.
To sue in a state court
, one needs to have a "cause of action." There are numerous causes of action, such as "breach of contract," "negligence," "fraud," "unjust enrichment," etc., as well as causes of action rooted in statutory law. Every state has their own although they are very similar to each other in every state because they all stem from the same common law. A pleading in Court needs at least one
cause of action, although it is not unusual to have more than one.
The primary cause for suing the third party in this case is alienation of affection
. Alienation of affection basically means suing the third party for their role in the affair with your spouse. Unfortunately, CA has banned alienation of affection as a cause of action in the state.
The closest thing you can sue her for is intentional infliction of emotional distress
. Elements of this are (1) extreme and outrageous conduct by the defendant with the intention of causing, or reckless disregard of the probability of causing, emotional distress; (2) the plaintiff's suffering severe or extreme emotional distress; and (3) actual and proximate causation of the emotional distress by the defendant's outrageous conduct. Davidson v. City of Westminster, 649 P. 2d 894 - Cal: Supreme Court 1982
. In other words, she would have had to KNOW that you knew, and continued to do so with the specific intent to HARM YOU. Of course, this is an indirect substitute for alienation of affection, and not as strong at all in such cases.
I do not know the details, but perhaps if one can prove that she KNEW and CONTINUED simply to HARM YOU, then perhaps there is a case for alienation of affection...
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