My name is ***** ***** I am an experienced criminal
I think your parents will be more upset if you get in the way of the help you need in order to come out of this case without a criminal record
. Keep that in mind, because you should have a lawyer for best results. You're obviously a young person or you wouldn't be worried about your parents, and criminal cases can have lifetime consequences.
Yes, you'll have to show up in court. YOu're a defendant and you're charged with a crime. If you don't go to court, a warrant will issue for your arrest. Misdemeanor cases are almost always "must appears" so I suggest you call the clerk of the court tomorrow and ask him if you must show.
States all differ as to their expungement
rules. Also expungement is discretionary rather than mandatory. By this I mean that some states do not allow convictions of any sort to be expunged, and those that do allow it don't grant an expungement to every applicant. If you reply with the law of your state, I will let you know whether your state will expunge a conviction or not.
If you are going to tell your folks and they will hire a lawyer for you, have him in court with you. If you are not you can show up on the 19th, plead not guilty and ask the judge to give you a free lawyer if you cannot afford to hire one yourself. On a first arrest, a lawyer can usually negotiate something that will keep this charge off of your record.